I sincerely thank you for your compassion and consideration for my sudden intrusion into your private lives. Father, did you know that all these my past years since the death of our parent I have been searching for someone like you for sincerity and honesty just like you have portrayed for us.
I am just seeing your mail now and I thank you once again for the love and understanding with which you have decided to accord us with your support and assistance.You may not want to be ouir father but we have decided to choose you as our adoptive father since we have no living parent again. The choice however is yours and concerning the percentage when we meet you physically everything shall be drawn out clearly.
There is no problem at all because all the necessary documents will be availed to the bank management before the transfer of the funds will be made to your bank account in your country. The approval for the funds and the authorisation according to the director will be furnished and will be mlade available to you to cover the reason for the transfer of the funds. Therefore, fear nothing as this is a risk free transactioÃ§n and is strictly legal within the law. There will be no threat to your life and the funds will be under secure legal coverage by the transferring bank. And like I have indicate earlier in my first mail, Idris and I are brother and sister from the same parent. We were left alone here when our father were murdered by political rebels so to say by the circumstances of their death because we were away at school at the time. Since then we became vulnerable since we have to ran away from the family house for our safety. This vulnerability to people seeking to kill us is what has forced me to start looking for outside help to save our lives.
Many factors contributed to my depression as the elders of the two children left alive by our deceased parent. And of course loneliness and lack of social support were the obvious factors that posed very detrimental to our daily survival in this country with mouse and cat situation from our late father's uncle who want the funds for himself at all cost after first usurping all our father businesses and estates.
However, the major contributor was that I didn't feel understood. It was a transition year for me now that I have meet you sir and as I have said earlier how can I ever forget you.
With the time off, I started feeling and sensing how much past pain and resentments I had stored inside my heart. It was like the quieter I got, the more I heard how much of what was inside me. I felt a huge void, as if I was a failure in more than one aspect of my life.
During my depression, I felt like the society members and friends I have when our parent were alive did not understand me and lacked the time, patience, or skills to listen effectively. I felt suffocated, isolated, and invisible. The universe has a weird way of working things out in life; things appear or show up for a reason. What appeared for me was a powerful listener.
Though you as a person was a complete stranger to us, but I felt connected from the very first moment I contacted you after seeing your profile.
This your prompt response now showed me that meeting you was not a hassard at all but divine grace of the Almighty arranged to save our lives.
When some people here listened so patiently and intently to my words and feelingsâ€”both expressed and unexpressedâ€”it felt so incredible that I didn't want to stop sharing. I emptied my entire heart, all my fears, disappointments, and pain. I released all of it but at the end of the day we always meet with dissapointment where we thought that we have found solace. Yet we are patient thinking that one day our patience will yield result like it did today.
It was a pure, non-judgmental, patient, and empathetic space where I got to express and feel understood and validated. I didn't get any solutions, advice, or answers. Instead I got thought provoking questions, like "What does your soul really want?" "What makes you happy?, What are you grateful for? and How can you get out of this dangers?,or How can you forgive those who killed your parent?.
It was this powerful listening that provided immeasurable healing. It today that was the first time in my life I actually felt like I had been heard, really understoodâ€”like what I had to say made sense. I felt important and visible again.
Like most depressed people, I lacked motivation and self-worth. Feeling understood is the most basic of human needs; during a time of depression it almost feels as critical as the need for air.
Being understood immediately shifted my perspective: from feeling invisible to feeling visible, from feeling down to feeling uplifted, from feeling contracted to feeling expanded, from feeling hopeless to hopeful.
It made me rise again and take care of my basic needs. Slowly but surely, I was able to walk out of the depression with the help of powerful listening, which has changed my life forever.
If you have never been in a situation when you felt like your words weren't being acknowledged? Like you were expressing yourself over and over again, yet you were being misunderstood? Like you were fighting so hard to get your point across, but it only got worse?. This often leaves you feeling frustrated and angry, with doubts about yourself. It can cause you to hang onto negative emotions and resentments, which could become the building blocks of depression.
Effective listeners remember that â€˜words have no meaningâ€”people have meaning.' The assignment of meaning to a term is an internal process; meaning comes from inside us. And although our experiences, knowledge and attitudes differ, we often misinterpret each other's messages while under the illusion that a common understanding has been achieved."
I have clearly understood the content of your mail and I am certain that once the funds hit your account all our problem will be a thing of the past.
When someone listens to you well, it makes you feel accepted, understood, important, valued and validated. It gives you a voice to help you find yourself again. It reminds you that you are not invisible or alone.
Although we hear with our ears, many of us don't necessarily listen to what is being said. We don't get the chance to listen when we are too quickly reacting, judging, providing solutions, and disagreeing, rather than being a good sounding board.
I will send you a sure phone number as soon as possible because before we meet you we are actually just like a living dead in this country hiding always.
Psalms 119:116 saysâ€¦.Uphold me according unto thy word, that I may live, and let me not be ashamed of my hope.
Psalms 138: 7 Though I walk in the midst of trouble, thou will revive me.
Psalms 41:1 Blessed is he that considered the poor, the Lord will deliver him in time of trouble.
I and my brother never do without praying erach night because as a muslim converted to christian after our parent's death we have learn't a very great lesson.
Our warmest regards to all members of your family. We are very grateful to you for all your cares and compassion.
I want you to exercise no fear in contacting the bank director because he will be able to explain much more better to you when you contact him.
Thanks very much for your attention
Hoping to hear from you soonest.
Your children Yasmin and Idris
Father, this is the letter I want you to send to the bank:
Dear Mr. Philippe Attobra,
I am Mr. xxx and I am the foreign Guardian and mentor to Ms Yasmin Amina Hassan.
She is the daughter of one late Mr. Mohammed Abdullah Hassan who made a deposit of funds with your bank. I want you to please consider my claim which is confirmable from Miss Yasmin Amina Mohammed herself.
And as her guardian, I now have her authorisation to contact your honourable bank to know the process and process for the funds to be transfer to me in my country.
Thanks very much for your cooperation.
Below is the contact of the Bank:
Banque Internationale pour l'Afrique d'occidentale CI
Address 8-10 Avenue Joseph Anoma,
Postal Address 01 B.P 1274 ABIDJAN 01
Office of the Director General
Mr. Philippe Attobra
email:firstname.lastname@example.org(private email of the director)
Web-site: www. biao.co.ci
Phone: 20200720 (Reception)
Fax : 20200700
Phone: +225 55490256 (Direct phone of the director general)
Thanks very much for your attention
Warmest regards to all members of your family.
Hoping to hear from you soonest if you also have a new update to give us.
Yasmin and Idris